An Unforgettable Sunset On An Old Runway

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A few weeks ago two photographers reached out to us through Instagram, saying they would like to do a shoot with us. Their message was so sweet and their Instagram account so beautiful, that we had a very good feeling about this photo shoot.
We decided to ignore the fact that we feel super awkward in front of cameras. Mimi genuinely hates being photographed, or even worse, being filmed, and I feel just like an idiot having no idea what to do with my face… my hands… and my whole body.
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Photo shoot at the aircraft

Less than a week later, they were having doing a wedding shoot in Berlin. We decided to meet during that weekend. We agreed that they should choose the location, and it happened to be at the Tempeflhofer Feld. For all the non-Berliners out there; it is an abandoned airport that is now used as a park where people are free to hang out, run, bike, and grill.

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One bottle wine later

We met at the park in the early evening, and started discussing everything while sharing a bottle of wine. It could have been weird because they were total strangers to us, but we really clicked immediately! These adorable ladies were Maria and Linda. They were super easy going and funny, and as the bottle became emptier, we were getting more and more excited for the upcoming photo-shoot.
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Go time

The four of us chatted until sunset, and then it came time to forget about being camera-shy. It was also time to ignore all the other park-goers. And then, guess what? Magic happened! We didn’t feel awkward at all and we totally forgot about the bystanders. It was just the two, oh right… four of us in the park. The sky was gorgeous, the city calm, love was in the air, and everything just felt natural.
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We did it

Once the session was over, we unfortunately said our goodbyes, but what a fantastic feeling! We put ourselves out there and felt strong and proud about it. What is there to be proud of? We faced our fears and stepped out of our comfort zones.
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Maria and Linda

Special thanks to Linda and Maria for this opportunity. Your passion, talent, amazing work, and friendship, felt more than authentic. We are so honoured to have met you, and we couldn’t be happier with how you captured us together in your photographs. 
We hope you enjoy the pictures of this special moment as much as we do. You can find all of Maria & Linda’s beautiful work by clicking here.
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All Credits to Maria and Linda 

She doesn’t speak my language 

The communication in a mixed nationality couple

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Nowadays one of the most famous pieces of relationship advice is: communication is key.

Unsaid words are poison and a true deep conversation will probably ease you and your partner. But, how does it work in a binational couple? Communication belongs to a certain culture, to your language, so is it an issue at some point?

Well, we can’t speak for all, but here is our own experience of it.

First a little rewind. I worked two years as an au-pair in Berlin. Everybody said my German was great but I didn’t consider myself as good enough. I had to talk French at work, and I almost only had French friends in the city. Not the best to learn a foreign language, is it?

But I was determined to always improve my skills. And my wish came true as I met her. The love of my life. This wonderful, amazing, beautiful german girl. And what a better way to learn than through the language of love?

She couldn’t speak a word of french and my english sucked. So the decision was all taken! We started to talk to each other in german. She was patient, and it was never a problem at the beginning of our relationship. It was actually cute. It brought lightness. We always laughed at my mistakes, my accent or the differences of both our cultures.

First fights

Time passed and we had our first disputes. We discovered how difficult the communication sometimes is in every relationship but even more so in our case. Words became barriers. For me, not for her. I was the only one talking a language that was not my native one, the whole time. She was so used to hear me speak german that she almost forgot it wasn’t my mother tongue.

Running in circle

She didn’t understand that my brain was still impeded, missing important vocabulary. Especially in pressing situations like arguments. And with stress, the emotions popping up from all over my body, I struggled more and more to find my words. So I tried to change my words again and again, hoping that my argument would be understood.
She hated that. But every time I explained to her why I was running in a circle like that : she got it. She remembered the fact that I speak in a foreign language every single minute of the day. It may sound easy, I probably look like a fluent speaker, but it is sometimes so freaking exhausting.

The real deal

I often feel like I would go deeper if I could speak in my native language, especially in a fight situation. But what’s most important is not the dispute itself. The big deal is how we react to it, how we handle it. And it always fascinates me, the way we solve our problems, with love and compassion. I think it is an universal solution. It doesn’t matter if you and your partner speak the same language. The heart doesn’t need any translator.

Give her what you need

Be kind and let your heart speak, not your anger. Ask yourself „what do I need right now? What should my partner do to help me, to stop my struggle?“. Do you need this person to hold your hand and say „I’m sorry“? Do you need her to listen? Do you need a cuddle? A kiss? Then just stop to wait and give.

Most of the time both want and need exactly the same : tenderness, calmness, love. And suddenly all the temper is gone. You may even ask yourself why you were fighting to begin with. How did it escalate so fast? You’re not really sure, but it doesn’t matter anymore, you’re just glad to hold her tight. To let the anger go. And you can now communicate more calmly and with empathy. You can share your thoughts and try to avoid the next fight. Or at least to make it easier. I give her advice to understand me better and faster the next time and she does the same.

That’s how we slowly learnt how to deal with the binational aspect of our relationship : with a double amount of communication, patience and respect

I learnt her language, she learnt mine.